Women who speak their mind are not ‘bossy’

Have you been carrying the ‘bossy’ title around like an old handbag?

Are you a woman who can speak her mind but has been labelled as bossy for doing so? Perhaps like me, this label appeared at some stage in your youth and you have consciously or unconsciously carried it around like an old handbag ever since. 

But being bossy and speaking your mind are actually two different things

According to dictionary.com – the meaning for bossy is – “given to ordering people about; overly authoritative; domineering”

So it has come to my recent attention through my sister, that in my youth I was demanding and domineering in our family and everyone was apparently expected to bow to my commands. Interestingly my perspective was completely different to theirs – I was just a young girl who had creative visions calling in the services of family members to help me. Whether my family were right or wrong in labelling me this way, the real issue is the impact that this ‘bossy’ label has had over the course of my adulthood. 

Because ‘speaking my mind’ was now intimately linked with ‘being bossy’ it became more and more difficult for me to access and speak my truth.

Your confidence can be a trigger to others

What I have learnt as a result of years of inner exploration as well as observing others, is if someone feels the need to label you as being bossy when you are clearly and genuinely asserting yourself, then this is really indicative of where they are at within themselves. 

Something you said or even the confidence with which you said it has triggered one of their unconscious wounds and because they don’t know how to respond like a healthy adult, they throw a label at you to justify their reaction. 

Speaking your mind in a heart centred, confident way is the only way to live your life authentically

It does however take a willingness to get raw and real with yourself, as well as a whole lot of practice! But that’s OK because the Women’s Village is a space where we get to be raw and real. 

Let’s get raw and real together 

In fact I am going to be jumping online from time to time in the Virtual Women’s Village to share what’s raw and real in my life as a platform for you to get raw and real with yourself too. 

Come join us sister, the more the merrier! Plus you have full permission to get online in your dressing gown cause that’s how we roll in this village! 

Big love,

Sherree Maniks,
Virtual Women’s Village Service Provider, Wardrobe Coach and Art Therapist

You deserve to be nurtured the way you nurture others

The members of our Virtual Women’s Village know what it’s like to be apart of a truly safe, loving and nurturing sisterhood.

Every day, women are re-claiming their lives piece by piece to remember who they really are, before they got  crazy busy and lost in the never ending ‘to-do’ lists and demands of ‘life’.

What are you yearning for? What’s that something ‘more’ that’s nagging deep inside you?

We all have access to this knowing, but often we need a little support to find it. Reach out, take our hand and let’s find out together.

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