Perfectionism is holding you back!

Try as you might, unless it feels ‘perfect’ to you then it just isn’t enough, right? You live in fear of failing,  of never ‘arriving’ at the perfect place because it, or you, just isn’t enough.

It’s my first book, I need it to be perfect!

Have you ever poured your blood, sweat and tears into a project, only to have the proverbial rug pulled out from under you at what should have been the hour of your triumph?

On the evening before the much-anticipated launch of my first book, I rushed home to open the three boxes of books that had been delivered by my publisher. I pulled out the first book, opened it and slowly, the cold finger of grief and sadness entered my soul.

I realized a contents page was missing and, countless grammatical and punctuation errors overwhelmed me! Resolving to pull the plug on my ‘sold-out’ launch, I cried myself to sleep. Yet, the universe had other ideas and my notion of the ideal of perfection was crushed. 

Perfectionism is a hollow falsehood.

Women whispering encouragement filled my dreams.  I heard them chanting, “Mistakes are proof that you are trying” followed by gentle whispers of “Is this not the message you are gifting the world?”. Waking up, I impatiently flicked on the television and stopped in my tracks. A woman was displaying an exquisite Persian Rug saying, “This is a mistake I made, and here too, and also here…”. The reporter asked why she had not fixed her mistakes? “Only God is perfect. I would never be so arrogant as to want to compete with the Divine”.

Healing tears flooded my cheeks. I launched my book with the message that “Mistakes are proof that you are trying”. I implored my readers to consider these humble words when finding an error in my manuscript.

Countless women have all been hoodwinked into worshipping the hollow falsehood of so-called perfection and, this lie has kept us all enslaved in fear and sadness. Is perfectionism holding you back from being your authentic self?

 

Put your mistakes to rest.

Excavate the five worst mistakes you have ever made and include how you dealt with each. Do you still need to resolve anything? Do what you need to do to put this to rest. Then, rip up the list, burn it and flush the ashes down the toilet and promise yourself to leave it in the past, where it belongs. 

Resolve to refuse to give other people’s opinions the power to steal your dreams. Empower yourself to view mistakes as steppingstones towards ‘Daring to Reclaim Your Bespoke Pathway’ and not imprisoning stumbling blocks to be avoided. Dare to take a chance on yourself. Dare to embrace your unique version of your authentic self without fearing the empty opinions of others. 

Take a deep breath, ‘pull on your big girl panties’ and dare to take the first step on your expansion journey. 

Lead yourself to your cheersquad to help keep you strong. To the women who support me to be perfectly imperfect. You are not alone, you belong to a supportive sisterhood like the Virtual Woman’s Village where you will find safety, connection, inspiration, expert help and, so much more.

What are you waiting for?

Love and Light,

Estellé Woods
Virtual Women’s Village Member 
and Author of ‘Daring to Claim my Bespoke Pathway’

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Every day, women are re-claiming their lives piece by piece to remember who they really are, before they got crazy busy and lost in the never ending ‘to-do’ lists and demands of ‘life’.

What are you yearning for? What’s that something ‘more’ that’s nagging deep inside you?

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