Lead Yourself First

So what does self-leadership even look like?

Well, let me share a simple example from the area that I know and love…. fashion and creativity.

I’m sure you’ve heard of Frida Kahlo, the famous Mexican artist and style icon. To me, Frida is an example of self-leadership in the way that she created and owned her unique style in a very unapologetic way.

Now back in the day, I don’t think Frida dressed the way she did because she wanted to be a 21st century style leader. Frida was just doing Frida. And there-in lies the key to self-leadership.

She led herself from her innate truth and in doing so became an inspiration to others. Like how she commonly adorned herself in the Rebozo scarf as a subtle political statement because it had become a symbol of femininity and Mexico’s fight for freedom. (In case you didn’t know the Rebozo scarf was worn by female revolutionaries in Mexico who used them to smuggle guns past government checkpoints helping to oust a 35 year dictatorship….how cool is that!!!)


Unpack leadership for yourself

To start to unpack leadership for yourself here is a journaling exercise you can do:

  • In what ways do you lead yourself? How do these actions make you feel?
  • In what areas do you let others lead you, consciously or unconsciously? Does it feel in alignment with your truth or not?

Like anything in life there is always a balance so I am not saying that allowing yourself to be led by someone is wrong, the key to this exercise is to at least ask yourself the question and be honest in your answer. Once you are able to see the areas where you are led that don’t feel in alignment with your heart, can you choose at least one of them and commit to leading yourself in this area of your life?


True Leaders help others Rise

I know the potential challenges of this journaling exercise, but I also know there is a variety of support available withing the Virtual Women’s Village that you can tap into. A Sisterhood of women leading themselves, supporting other women to do the same.


Big Love,


Sherree Maniks
Virtual Women’s Village Service Provider, 
Wardrobe Coach and Art Therapist,


You deserve to be nurtured the way you nurture others

The members of our Virtual Women’s Village know what it’s like to be apart of a truly safe, loving and nurturing sisterhood.

Every day, women are re-claiming their lives piece by piece to remember who they really are, before they got  crazy busy and lost in the never ending ‘to-do’ lists and demands of ‘life’.

What are you yearning for? What’s that something ‘more’ that’s nagging deep inside you?

We all have access to this knowing, but often we need a little support to find it. Reach out, take our hand and let’s find out together.

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